Christmas is all around us, and many people are making up wish lists. Those who aren’t doing that are busy setting down their New Year’s Resolutions already. But this is a good time to sit down and do some serious introspection.

What do you want from the holidays this year? Do you want to rush around, spend a lot of money you don’t have, and yell at the kids for not playing with all twenty of the toys they asked for—at the same time? Is that really how you want to spend Christmas?

We talk about “Christmas spirit," and mostly we mean giving. Giving of ourselves, giving to people who need it. That’s great, that’s Christmas spirit.

But I think there’s another aspect to “Christmas spirit." I think it’s spiritual. And don’t close your screen on me because I said spiritual. I didn’t say religious, because it’s not. I think it comes from our souls.

I think deep down, each of us has a spirit that wants to be expressed. And I think at Christmas, when we’re naturally thinking of others, that spirit is more easily expressed. I think if you want to, you can have a spiritual Christmas. You can feel loving, caring, generous. You can feel like a kid at Christmas, just by opening up to your spirit.

So what do you want this year?